Yes,this statement says a lot about HUMAN EMOTIONS.Don't we all have something amiss in our lives.God rarely bestows everything to one person.Common people like us do miss out not only on many material things in life but also on many emotions and relations too.Loss of a member of the family ; or not having them in the first place are some of the instances.Hurting taunting and emotional torturing of a person by somebody seems to be the most terrible to me.
If and when someone points out my shortcoming or loss in however polished and sophisticated manner ;is the time when I get most depressed.All relationships,friendship, comradeship and camarederie seem a farce then.And let me confide in you .......we women are the worst perpetrators of such "crime".I sincerely feel women are much more shrewd ,conniving and jealous in their thoughts and behaviour than any man could ever think of. No man has ever been able to hurt me more than females I have come across in my life .....as relatives friends and acquaintances.
A friend of mine confided in me.....She has severed off all relationships with her brothers after her marriage for they disapproved of her marriage..As a loyal wife and an individual she has stood by her decision and is a wonderful wife and mother to her kids.But every Rakhi and Bhaidooj she feels miserable....obviously.And every year some relative or another make fun of her subtly......Loss of her brothers looms large on her.....,It is women of the house who taunt bahus for not bearing a male child ,or not bringing enough dowry.As mothers too, it is the woman who discriminates against the daughter more than any male member.Divorced or separated women are mostly ridiculed by the womenfolk themselves both in front and behind their back...Isnt it?
In this artificial world ,human emotions are the most tortured ones.I have seen the closest relatives who are with you physically in your times of need but are also on the watchout for turn of events in your life.They pretend as supporters in trying times but prey on our most secretive and weak thoughts and moments.
Do we all not need a person in our lives who is just a "well wisher" .....on whose shoulders we can cry upon....without fear of being let down?? Can we try to become that????
Rama... I couldn't agree with you more on this... yes, it is women who turn out to be the worst of ur enemy(read frenemy) coz u really are not able to discern whether she is a friend or otherwise...at such times (easier said than done, yet)we need to be by ourselves... stand by n have unflinching faith in one's own self... kahte hain na " himmat-e-marda toh madad-e-khuda" i blv in this... and whenever i get the slightest feel of the shakes n stirs... remember my parents and God... the hurt gives me a lesson and i move forward... all smiles again...:)))))
ReplyDeleteVery well written!!
ReplyDeletebeautifully expressed.
ReplyDeleteRama....u've beautifully penned down this issue of "emmotins"....ur each word is hitting home.....falling short of words to describe my emmotions...feelings rite now....but all i can say that these experiences make us....into a stronger individual....good,sensitive human beings nd a better judge of characters.....nd GOD save us frm these "MONSTERS".....if ever fail to recognise them on time ;-)))
ReplyDeleteBut lady cheers to u 4r ur sheer ability to pick up a sensitive subject like this....(through which we all go,sometime or the other in life, but unable to voice it ;-((..)....nd bringing out an awareness amongst all of us....nd.....the list is endless...so wil end here nd one thing is 101% sure....women like us r no more ready to take the above insensitivity frm...ANYONEEEEEE!